*I wrote this today while praying for a friend who just received a “you’re a wonderful person”.

No offense but I hate the line: “I would have come to visit but I just didn’t know what to say.”  You know what, next time just come and sit there and hold my hand.  Don’t say anything because if you try to make something up it won’t help anyway.

Sometimes there just isn’t anything to say.  Sometimes we just need a hug or hand held.  No words will help.

“You’re a wonderful person” just doesn’t help a person suffering from depression.  “You have so much going for you.”  “You are so smart, gifted, pretty, young, talented.”  You would not use this approach with someone suffering a high fever or a broken leg.  “Please don’t think about that bone sticking out of your leg.  You are a wonderful person with so much potential.  Just get up and go to work, you’ll feel better.”  Do you think anyone at work will notice the bone sticking out?

“Things will get better.”  “Tomorrow is another day.”

Affirm, love, hold, hug, pray, don’t try to understand, don’t try to change, just be there.

2 Corinthians 4:7-9

New International Version (NIV)

7 But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. 8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.



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