I am amazed in business how people with vision are judged. Big or small, young or old, anyone who sets out with a vision is judged by friends and enemies alike. Christians are no better – we may coat the language in “loving” terms and mention discernment and wisdom but ultimately we are judging and declaring failure over others.
Why? Jealousy, anger, bitterness are definitely major roles. Feeling left out of the call may be a part. Not grasping the vision can lead to it as well.
How many times have you heard, “He will never make it. He doesn’t have what it takes” or “He has no training” or “She is too young and flighty” or “They will never keep that together since dad left”. Sometimes we are right with our judgment but does that make it right to judge in the first place? Why is it our concern? Why don’t we wish them the best instead of tearing them down?
It is tough to make it in business. Most of us work hard to just get by each day. Few of us become wealthy tycoons.
We all have callings. We all have failures and short comings. Let’s not make another one by casting doubt and failure on a brother or sister.
Genesis 37:19 “Here comes that dreamer!” they said to each other. 20 “Come now, let’s kill him and throw him into one of these cisterns and say that a ferocious animal devoured him. Then we’ll see what comes of his dreams.”
This sign caught my attention today. The item for sale is a sand kit often used in weddings as a unity mix. It is being sold “as is” with a sign on it that says “broken pieces”. I thought: How appropriate. We all enter marriage with lofty dreams of blending together as one. But sooner or later we realize there are “broken pieces” to deal with. Our marriages come “as is” but the broken pieces aren’t always disclosed. Many of them aren’t found out until later.
If you are dealing with broken pieces, you’re not alone. We all have them. All of our spouses have them. No one is perfect. You have a choice; are you going to deal with your set or are you going to move on and try to find a better one?
Do you feel like you got a damaged kit? Are you the damaged piece? Is it a small chip, a crack, or is your entire vase broken beyond repair? Maybe your sand is spilling out all over the table and everyone sees the damage. Your vase may not look anything like it did on your wedding day. Even if it is not broken, it may have been shaken and the mixture is totally mixed up.
You’re not alone. Hang in there. Talk to each other and above all, love your spouse more than you ever have.
1st Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.